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Beyond The Scars

Updated: May 9, 2022

We walk around on a daily basis wearing a number of hats. I myself am a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, an employee, colleague, and many other things. I have a number of people that depend on me to do different things every day. And, I do them, all while my emotional scars are lying beneath the surface.

The question is, have we done what is necessary to heal those emotional scars. They don’t just go away.

I cringe when I think about some of the darkest times of my life. I have some extremely painful and traumatic experiences that have left emotional scars that others are not able to see when they look at me. Just because you can’t see them with the naked eye doesn’t mean they aren’t there. And I’ll be honest, those scars run deep.

Yes, we may push those traumatic experiences to the back of our minds and not think about them per say. However, they have a way of resurfacing, sometimes when we least expect them to. There are a number of things that can happen when they aren’t properly dealt with. Have you ever heard the saying, “hurt people, hurt people.” I’ve found that to be very true.

You may ask, how do you heal those scars? Journaling has been very therapeutic for me. I remember a time when I would journal and could barely write one word before breaking down in tears. I was so broken. But starting to write and really think about what happened to me, exactly what was going on with me, in me, around me, and so on, was very healing for me. After I’d write, I’d feel better so much better. I heard someone put it this way: we take so much in on a daily basis, as the trash can does. Just as you have to empty your physical trash, you should dump the emotional and mental trash too. So, a great way to do that is, write. Another way to heal those scars is by seeking help from a professional. There are some great ones out there. A third way to heal those scars is by finding a support group. There are churches and hospitals and many other places that have them at a very reasonable cost, if anything at all. There are many other ways to heal, I’ve only listed a few.

Our experiences do help to shape us into who we are. But, I want to remind you that, we are much more that what we’ve been through. Instead of being a victim, I choose to be an overcomer. This mindset is not something that just comes overnight. I have to remind myself daily that I am going to walk in victory today. Then, put myself in a position to do just that! I also remind myself that I am not going to mope around or waddle in everything that is a result of my painful past. Instead, I will create new memories, memories that bring joy to my heart and a smile to my face. Lastly, I will continue to rise. Why? Because I am a victorious woman rising.

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